The Way You Feel About Anything Determines Your Level of Success
Author: Nicky J. Davies |
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Categories: Business Fast Track
“This feels like a chore” he said. Working towards getting his business up and running is super important to him. He knows this will free him from his corporate job. But when it comes to getting tasks done an image pops into his mind of when he was asked to do homework at school. An image of homework as a chore, something that feels unpleasant, resenting that it HAS to be done. So what wins his attention are the more pleasurable activities calling him away from it. And the same thing was happening now. The tasks related to his business were not getting done, despite his frustration and annoyance at himself, and ultimately delaying the future he desired.
You see your feelings control your actions and your actions control events. So the way you feel about anything determines your level of success. “Great” you may be thinking, “so how do I control how I feel?”.
Well, the way you feel about anything is down to two things; the pictures you make in your head and the words you say to yourself.
You may think that you are merely reacting to a situation, that your feelings are generated as a reaction and you have no control over them. But this is not true. It is the interpretation you put on the situation that determines how you feel. And the interpretation is based on the pictures you make in your head and the words you say to yourself.
This is good news! It means that you can take back control of any situation and how you feel by changing the pictures in your head and the words you say to yourself – lie to your mind, cheat your mind out of fear, play games with your mind and live your life with the phenomenal confidence you were born with.Let me give you an example. I recently got stuck in a lift (elevator) on my own. Feeling claustrophobic in such a confined space, I started to panic. I had images in my mind of the walls of the lift moving closer, of not being able to breath – no wonder I was starting to panic! So, I shut my eyes and told myself that I can do this. I told myself that there was plenty of space around me and to prove it I moved to the centre of the lift, and could wave my arms around without touching the walls. I breathed in deeply to prove that there was plenty of fresh air to breath. I told myself that I was calm, and I became calm.
Nothing about the situation had changed, and yet everything changed. All because I changed the pictures in my head and the words I was saying to myself. And you can do this in any situation.
So back to my client. What to do to change his feeling that the tasks he wanted to do to get his business up and running are a ‘chore’ to being excited to be working on his business and his desired future.
Well we tricked his mind by playing a game with it. Anybody can spend just two minutes on a task. So, we came up with a strategy where he would sit in the same place for two minutes each day and work on his business. But he could only work for two minutes. No longer.
Of course he quickly began to feel frustrated by the two minute rule, so he extended the time to 10 minutes, then 30 minutes and now works on his business 60 minutes each day. He even looks forward to this time, focused on bringing his desired future into reality.
His words and pictures have changed from being a ‘chore’ to images of his desired future becoming real, and a feeling of excitement for the task he is working on.
If there is something you want to achieve, want to be successful with but it seems to be eluding you, become aware of how you are feeling about it, the pictures you make in your head and the words you are saying to yourself. If they are not working for you, change them. Use more positive language, more positive images.Making this simple change will bring so much more success and achievement in your life. This is what the most successful business people do, this is what elite athletes do, and you can do it too.
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